{"id":16632,"date":"2023-06-15T21:43:45","date_gmt":"2023-06-15T19:43:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/?p=16632"},"modified":"2023-08-30T11:07:56","modified_gmt":"2023-08-30T09:07:56","slug":"irish-wake","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/irish-wake\/","title":{"rendered":"Irish Wakes: Mourning Loved Ones while Celebrating Life"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>img#mv-trellis-img-1::before{padding-top:75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-1{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-2::before{padding-top:75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-2{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-3::before{padding-top:75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-3{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-4::before{padding-top:75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-4{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-5::before{padding-top:75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-5{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-6::before{padding-top:75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-6{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-7::before{padding-top:75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-7{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-8::before{padding-top:75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-8{display:block;}<\/style>\n<p><em>The only difference between an Irish wedding and an Irish wake is one less drunk<\/em>. Or so the saying goes&hellip;..<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In every culture, life and death dance together in a complicated way, but the Irish feel this duality most deeply.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Irish wake is a unmistakable funeral custom from the Emerald Isle that shows this feeling like nothing else. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is a <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/irish-culture\/\">unique aspect of Irish culture<\/a><\/strong>, where people cry, laugh, sing, cause mischief and think about the person who died.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One can describe it as a heartfelt farewell that also serves as a happy celebration of the person&rsquo;s life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What surprises people the most is the level of trickery and pranks that traditionally took place at wakes.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When an older person died, it was certainly not a somber occasion!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>This article may contain affiliate links. If you click on one of them, we might receive a small commission (at no extra cost to you). Thanks for your support to help us keep this site running!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What is an Irish Wake?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead.jpg\" alt=\"Three pints of stout being used in a toast.\" class=\"wp-image-16640\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead-728x546.jpg 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"eager\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20800%20600'%3E%3Crect%20width='800'%20height='600'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Three pints of stout being used in a toast.\" class=\"wp-image-16640 eager-load\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-1\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead.jpg.webp\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead.jpg.webp 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead-300x225.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead-768x576.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-toasts-for-the-dead-728x546.jpg.webp 728w\" data-svg=\"1\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>An Irish wake celebrates the life of the deceased, often with plenty of toasts. (Photo: TY Lim via Shutterstock)<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>An &ldquo;Irish Wake&rdquo; is basically a party held soon after someone dies.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In my experience, it is a time where family and friends of all ages get together and remember the person who passed away and use the time to reconnect with each other again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Usually a wake takes place in the home of the person who died, or their close family.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The word &ldquo;wake&rdquo; might make you think of &ldquo;waking up&rdquo;.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, the phrase probably comes from the practice of &ldquo;watching&rdquo; or &ldquo;waking&rdquo; over the body of a loved one thus keeping them from harm until they are buried.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Typically, family and friends would take turns to sit with the body throughout the entire wake to ensure that the body was never alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The traditional belief is that this practice wards away evil spirits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/what-is-a-banshee\/\">Banshees in Irish culture<\/a><\/strong> also play an important role in warning a family about an imminent death.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Wakes are a time for family, friends, and neighbors to get together and pay their respects.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The mourners can take part in a number of traditions that honor the life of the person who died.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Another important aspect of a wake is to bring the community together in grief and be a social occasion.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Irish Wake Origins and History<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The Irish wake has roots that go back hundreds of years.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It has been influenced by old Celtic customs, early Christian rituals, and even a little bit of ancient Jewish custom.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There may also be some evidence to suggest that wakes came about after multiple lead poisonings.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Such poisonings may result in a person appearing to be &ldquo;dead&rdquo; for a number of hours (or days), only for them later to recover.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By waking the body, this removed the chance of burying a living person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Wakes act to celebrate the deceased with one last gathering where he or she is the main guest of honor.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They also have long played a role in highlighting the stark difference between life and death.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For many, especially the young, wakes are seen as a reminder that life should be enjoyed and lived by the living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Traditional wakes that took place in Ireland a century or two ago are quite different to the ones that take place today.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In most cases, the element of fun and mischief are considerably toned down in comparison to what they once were.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What makes an Irish Wake special?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The Irish wake is a way for the whole community to respond to the death of a loved one.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is hard to describe it exactly, but it is a mix of sadness and joy that is <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/what-is-ireland-known-for\/\">uniquely Irish<\/a><\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After a person dies, family members usually wash, dress, and lay out the body.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Traditionally the body would have been placed on a bed or a table in an area that was big enough to accommodate the expected crowd of people.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Usually this would have been in the home of the person or a close relative, but sometimes other buildings including barns would also have been used.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Once the wake started the vigil would typically last for at least a day and a night.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is then later followed by a procession to the church, the funeral and burial.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-16636\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession-728x546.jpg 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession.jpg.webp\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-16636 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession.jpg.webp 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession-300x225.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession-768x576.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession-728x546.jpg.webp 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Headstones-Irish-Wake-Procession.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-2\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>A cemetry with a view. After the funeral, the body would have been buried in the local cemetry. (Photo: Katya Kvitka via Shutterstock)<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Irish Wakes in Irish Culture<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>In Irish culture, the wake is seen as a necessary rite of passage.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It gives the community a chance to acknowledge the loss, celebrate the person&rsquo;s life, and help the people who are grieving.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Death is a sad time, but it&rsquo;s also seen as a natural part of the cycle of life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For this reason, a wake can be seen as more of a change than an end.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Irish wakes enable people to share their grief, tell stories and remember the person who died in the comfort of friends, family and neighbors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Understanding an Irish Wake<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>A traditional style Irish wake is far removed from the calm, somber event that people usually associate with funeral farewells today.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Irish wakes typically include many different elements of Irish tradition and entertainment.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/irish-prayer-for-the-dead\/\">Prayers and blessings for the dead<\/a><\/strong> are seen as only being a minor element of the entire ceremony.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Traditionally, singing, music and storytelling have been particularly popular at wakes.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keening, or a haunting wailing sound would also have been very common.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Games of all sorts, from cards and pranks, to cock fighting and fist fights also had a place in this ceremony.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You might also be surprised to learn that wakes were also a place for matchmakers and many marriages were finalized at one!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Drinking and raising a glass to the deceased continues to play large parts in the final farewell.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is fair to say that wakes have always been a social occasion, which plays an important part of the healing process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What&rsquo;s the difference between a traditional Irish wake and a modern Irish wake?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A traditional Irish wake was largely community focused gathering.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When the death was not particularly sad or tragic, traditional Irish wakes were typically a celebration with singing, music, games and pranks.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Modern Irish wakes are still community affairs, but are generally more somber in their tone.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Games and trickery are not usually part of the wakes in Ireland seen today.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Characteristics of a Traditional Irish Wake<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>During a traditional Irish wake, people follow many old traditions.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The body of the dead person is usually put on display in the family home, usually in the main room or &ldquo;wake room.&rdquo;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Typically, the body can be viewed. It is sometimes wrapped in a shroud or placed in a coffin.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mirrors are covered or turned to the wall, clocks are stopped (usually at the time of death), and candles placed near the coffin or close to the body.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>People come from the locality and sometimes further afield to pay their respects, offer condolences, and tell stories. They typically stay late into the night.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is also a degree of merriment, game playing and occasional pranks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mourners are offered food and drink. There would typically have been plenty of tobacco and snuff, as well to share in days gone by.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(With stricter tobacco laws in Ireland, this is no longer the case.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Prayers, as well as the occasional song or story are all part of the ceremony, which is a mix of serious thinking and happy remembering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Modern Irish Wakes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Many of the same traditions are still part of modern Irish wakes, but there have been some changes. These are due to practicality and changing social norms.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Modern wakes are often held in funeral homes instead of in the homes of the people who died. This is especially the case in cities.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When a person dies, a death notice is usually published in a local newspaper, or online.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One less well known Irish funeral tradition still occurs in some counties in Ireland, such as County Kerry. Every day the local death notices are read on the radio.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Typically, the dead person is brought to a funeral home the day after they die.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They repose at this location until the removal to a church takes place.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At the funeral home, the coffin may be open and the deceased visible to the mourners, or closed depending on the wishes of the immediate family.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions.jpg\" alt=\"A bible and rosary beads. \" class=\"wp-image-16660\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions-728x546.jpg 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions.jpg.webp\" alt=\"A bible and rosary beads. \" class=\"wp-image-16660 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions.jpg.webp 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions-300x225.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions-768x576.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions-728x546.jpg.webp 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-Wake-traditions.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-3\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>Prayers are also part of an Irish wake. (Photo: images72 via Shutterstock)<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Prayers are typically said during the evening as part of &ldquo;The Removal&rdquo; in the funeral home.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The coffin is then usually brought to the church for the funeral and burial, which is held on the next day.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Very often the entire process takes only two to three days until the deceased is buried.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though socializing is still a big part of modern wakes, they are typically quieter and focus more on formalities like eulogies and religious services.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, the modern wake, or removal, provides a possibility for the community to come together to celebrate a life and share grief.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Factors That Have Influenced the Changes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Several things have led to the changes in way wakes are performed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Changes in Irish society, like more mobility and the effect of the diaspora, have also had an effect on how wakes are held today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A decline in rural populations as people move to cities has certainly contributed to this.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Family structures are also different and not all the members of a family live close by anymore.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>People have also become less religious and often want more privacy when grieving.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Irish Wake Traditions and Practices<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Usually, the wake starts with the body being cleaned and laid out.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the times before electricity, the room would be lit by candlelight, giving it a somewhat eerie feeling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Windows and doors in the house or building would be opened to allow the spirit out.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is not unusual for the curtains in the house to be closed and that one window in the room with the body left open.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In some cases, the bed of the deceased would be burned as a form of mourning ritual and closure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>People would typically say the Rosary and keen over the dead person. Friends and family stay with the body for a day and a night.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Neighbors, family and friends would typically come to visit and pay their respects to the dead.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As it is also a part celebration of the person&rsquo;s life, food and drinks would also be shared on such an occasion.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The act of covering mirrors and stopping clocks are symbolic ways to show respect for the dead and acknowledge that death is present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Role of Songs, Pranks, and Games<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-16648\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake-728x546.jpg 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake.jpg.webp\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-16648 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake.jpg.webp 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake-300x225.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake-768x576.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake-728x546.jpg.webp 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Bodhran-Irish-wake.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-4\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>A bodhr&aacute;n is a traditional Irish instrument that would have been played at wakes. (Photo: Mark Hayes via Shutterstock)<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though it may seem strange, songs, jokes, and games have long been a part of wakes, especially for the deaths of elderly people.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The deaths of younger people, or deaths due to sad circumstances, were more somber events.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Songs and pranks were not meant to be disrespectful to the person who died, but instead honor their life and share memories of them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They also provided people with a break from their grief.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sad, as well as upbeat songs would have been sung and stories told well into the night.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the past, games and even pranks were played.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>These forms of &ldquo;divilment&rdquo; would have included harmless mischief, as well as more questionable activities.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Examples would include shaving the face of any man who fell asleep at a wake.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tobacco would be mixed with pepper.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Throwing objects (like potatoes or turf) at the mourners in the semi darkness of the candle lit wake room, was also popular.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Card games played at a wake often included the dead person, who would also be dealt a hand from the deck.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Other activities such as matchmaking may seem a little far fetched when one is mourning.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, wakes have always provided people with a great opportunity to gather and connect socially.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin.jpg\" alt=\"The Gravediggers Pub in Glasnevin Dublin. \" class=\"wp-image-16673\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin-728x546.jpg 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin.jpg.webp\" alt=\"The Gravediggers Pub in Glasnevin Dublin. \" class=\"wp-image-16673 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin.jpg.webp 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin-300x225.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin-768x576.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin-728x546.jpg.webp 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Kavanaghs-Pub-The-Gravediggers-Glasnevin.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-5\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>John Kavanagh, the Gravedigger Pub in Glasnevin, Dublin is famous because the gravediggers from the Glasnevin cemetry next door used a secret knocking code to order their drinks from the back of the building! (Photo: Letsgorireland.com)<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Wake Procession in Ireland<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>After the vigil, the wake ends with a procession from the home to the church for the funeral Mass and then to the graveyard for the burial.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This procession is an important part of the wake. It is a public way to show grief and acknowledges loss.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Clocks, Snuff, and Other Unique Wake Traditions<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>As a sign of respect, clocks are often stopped at the time of death, and mirrors are covered to keep the dead from causing any harm.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A traditional practice is to give snuff to visitors as a sign of hospitality and also to make them cry, because crying was seen as a way to let go of grief.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Food and Drink at an Irish Wake<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The food and drinks at an Irish wake are very important.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Traditional Irish dishes may be on the menu, and guests can almost always get tea and sandwiches.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whiskey, beer, and sometimes poit&iacute;n, which is an Irish moonshine, are some of the drinks people drink.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>These are shared with a sense of community, and it is common to raise a glass to the dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Irish Wake Memorial Service or Funeral Reception<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>After the burial, people often get together again for a funeral reception or &ldquo;afters.&rdquo;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is another chance for the community to come together, share memories of the deceased, comfort the grieving family, and celebrate the life of the departed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What Do You Say at an Irish Wake?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake.jpg\" alt=\"A mourning candles with white flowers.\" class=\"wp-image-16652\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake-728x546.jpg 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake.jpg.webp\" alt=\"A mourning candles with white flowers.\" class=\"wp-image-16652 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake.jpg.webp 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake-300x225.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake-768x576.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake-728x546.jpg.webp 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Candle-Irish-Wake.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-6\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>A mourning candles with white flowers. (Photo: rafa jodar via Shutterstock)<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>When you go to an Irish Wake, you should say your condolences in a sincere and direct way.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can say, &ldquo;I&rsquo;m sorry for your loss&rdquo; or &ldquo;My thoughts are with you and your family.&rdquo;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is also common to share personal memories or stories about the person who died.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This not only helps the grieving family, but also helps to celebrate the person&rsquo;s life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You will also find some <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/irish-blessings-funeral\/\">kind Irish funeral blessings<\/a><\/strong> in our longer article. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Irish Wake Etiquette&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though the Irish wake is a social event, it is important to remember that its main goal is to comfort the grieving and pay tribute to the dead.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Conversations should be kind and respectful.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s fine to tell funny or encouraging stories about the person who died, but they should be told with love and respect.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don&rsquo;t be afraid to show your sadness or even cry at a wake. Doing so is not only okay, but even encouraged.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Irish Wake Toasts<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Toasts at an Irish wake do two things. They honor the dead and help the living release their emotions and grief.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A toast is a public way to say how sad you are, how grateful you are to have known the person, or even how happy you are to have known them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Alcohol has always played a big role in the mourning and waking process.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In more recent times with a greater focus on driving under the influence, this is no longer always the case.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Other non-alcoholic beverages are also likely to be served as an alternative.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Traditional Irish Toasts<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Traditional Irish toasts often show how the Irish feel about life and death. They can be an unusual mix of humor, sincerity, and a touch of spirituality.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One common toast says:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,<\/em><br><em>And love leaves a memory no one can steal.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Another classic Irish saying about death is:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>May you be in heaven a full half hour&nbsp;<\/em><br><em>Before the devil knows you&rsquo;re dead.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to Propose a Toast<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>If you find it fitting, you can propose your own toast at an Irish wake.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You stand up, lift your glass, and say what&rsquo;s on your mind.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is&nbsp; not about how well you say things, but how sincere you are.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can share a memory, talk about how you feel, or just give a traditional Irish toast.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After you are finished talking, people will say &ldquo;Sl&aacute;inte,&rdquo;.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is pronounced &ldquo;slawn-cha&rdquo; and means &ldquo;health&rdquo; in Irish, and then drink.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake.jpg\" alt=\"Whiskey being pured into a glass.\" class=\"wp-image-16644\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake-728x546.jpg 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake.jpg.webp\" alt=\"Whiskey being pured into a glass.\" class=\"wp-image-16644 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake.jpg.webp 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake-300x225.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake-768x576.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake-728x546.jpg.webp 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/Irish-whiskey-Irish-wake.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-7\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Whiskey is a popular drink at wakes and funerals in Ireland. (Photo: barmalini via Shutterstock)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What should you bring to an Irish Wake?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>It might be a little challenging to know what to bring along with you to a wake. Here you will find some useful tips.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Traditional Wake Gifts<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though it&rsquo;s not required, it&rsquo;s the norm for people who go to an Irish wake to bring something.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>People often bring food and drink, like a dish to share, a bottle of whiskey, or things to make tea and sandwiches.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In more recent times, flowers or a gift to a charity that the person who died liked are also popular things to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Modern Wake Gifts<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Items that show the interests or passions of the dead are becoming more common in modern times.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This could be a framed picture of a loved one, a favorite book, or a CD of music by a favorite artist.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The most important thing is that it should honor and remember the person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What should you wear at an Irish Wake?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>People would traditionally wear black to an Irish wake to show respect and grief.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Men wore suits or other formal clothes most of the time, while women wore dresses or skirts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Modern Expectations and Etiquette<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though black is still the most common color, it&rsquo;s no longer a must.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Most of the time, dark, muted colors are fine.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The important thing is to look polite and traditional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Importance of Respect and Consideration<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>No matter what you wear, the most important thing is to treat people with respect and care.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is a time to show support for the grieving family and honor the person who has died, not to be the center of attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Irish Wake in Modern Times<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though there are still many traditional parts, the Irish wake has changed to reflect modern life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Wakes are usually held in funeral homes or funeral parlors as they are also known.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Games and pranks aren&rsquo;t as important, and the event tends to be more structured and organized.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the main point of a wake is still the same: people come together to mourn, remember, and celebrate life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How Irish Wakes have Changed<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Some Irish communities, especially those in the diaspora, have replaced or added to the wake with things like memorial services or celebrations of life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even with these changes, many parts of the wake stay the same, such as the gathering of the community and the sharing of memories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Irish Wake for Irish Diaspora<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The Irish wake is still a big deal in Irish communities all over the world.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though the details may be different, everyone agrees that a central part of Irish culture is that people come together to mourn and celebrate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Irish Wake in Irish Mythology and Literature<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-16668\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace-728x546.jpg 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace.jpg.webp\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-16668 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace.jpg.webp 800w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace-300x225.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace-768x576.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace-728x546.jpg.webp 728w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 96px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/irish-wake-fireplace.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-8\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>At a wake, people would gather around the fireplace in the simple old Irish homes. 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Sharing your condolences, typically with a solemn handshake is very common.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the case of large families, mourners usually form a line and take turns to shake the hands of the immediate family.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There may be the possibility to say a short few words to the deceased, offer a prayer or bless them with holy water.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What happens after this depends largely on the type of wake or removal.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Very often there is a lot of small talk with the people in attendance. Time can fly by as you mingle and converse with the mourners.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Wakes in the home may also offer food and drink.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Related article: Discover some <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/irish-prayer-blessings\/\">Irish prayers and blessings<\/a><\/strong> to share with the family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What is the meaning of the term &ldquo;Wake&rdquo;?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The word &ldquo;wake&rdquo; comes from the Old English word &ldquo;wacu,&rdquo; which means &ldquo;a watch or vigil.&rdquo;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It refers to the tradition of keeping watch over the dead from the time they die until they are buried.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What is an Irish Wake Drink?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>There is no one drink to have at an Irish wake, but alcohol is usually there.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whiskey is a popular choice, and some people might even drink poit&iacute;n, which is an Irish distilled drink.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is also likely to be plenty of tea and coffee, as well as non-alcoholic beverages.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Guide to Organizing an Irish Wake<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>There are several steps to planning an Irish wake.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First, the dead person&rsquo;s body is cleaned and set out.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The family then asks friends and people from the neighborhood to come pay their respects.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Food and drinks are made, and space is made for talking, telling stories, and remembering the past.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Lastly, plans are made for the funeral procession and gravesite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What Not to Forget for a Wake<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When planning a wake, it&rsquo;s important to think about where it will be held, what food and drinks will be served, how people will be invited, and how long the wake will last.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Family and close friends should sit closest and be more involved in the proceedings as a whole.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Irish Wakes<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Irish funeral traditions around wakes help people deal with grief, bring people together, and keep their culture connected to the past.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even though they may change with the times, keeping them alive is a good way to keep Irish history alive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For more related articles, you can check out the following: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/irish-prayer-for-the-dead\/\">Irish Prayer for the Dead<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/irish-blessings-funeral\/\">Irish Funeral Blessings<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/irish-farewell-blessings\/\"><strong>Irish<\/strong> <strong>Farewell Blessings<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.letsgoireland.com\/irish-prayer-blessings\/\">Irish Prayer Blessings<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The only difference between an Irish wedding and an Irish wake is one less drunk. 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